OFF-ROUTINE

OFF-ROUTINE

A few weeks ago, I was off-routine, and consequently my mood and productivity suffered.

It started off on Sunday. I woke up to a surprise invitation from some new friends to a free ticket to go with them that night to the Pitbull concert. I was so excited, as I had been interested in going to this but hadn?t bought a ticket. I had also recently been looking for abundance and receiving in my life, and this seemed like a perfect example. (More on abundance and receiving in future posts!)

The concert was such a fun time, but of course I was staying up way past my bed time. I decided to sleep in the next day, in order to get a full sleep and attempt to get back on schedule. I went to a later class at the gym and the rest of Monday and Tuesday got back on routine.

Then, Wednesday morning, I had RSVP?d to attend an early morning networking meeting, and I had decided to skip the gym in order to attend that event. That night happened to be another meeting I had committed to attending with my husband several months prior, and the meeting ended up keeping me up until about 10:30-11 PM that night.

Feeling exhausted from the full day, I decided to skip the gym again in the morning and chose to sleep in instead. The rest of the day and the next few days, I was able to get through the things I had scheduled, but I found myself feeling ?off.?

The lack of adherence to the routine was draining, and my focus suffered for it. I learned a great lesson about really reviewing my calendar and scheduled events and looking at those in light of my bedtime and waking routines.

In the future, I will be more cautious about scheduling early morning and later evening events back to back.

Do you often feel ?off-routine” and have too many events scheduled early and late? Do you even have a structured bedtime and morning routine? Have you considered the benefits of focus and productivity that having the routines could bring to your life?

If you haven?t yet checked out my free 5 Step Guide to Better Sleep Routines, click here to get your copy!

If you are feeling like you could really use some help getting into these routines, in order to get better sleep, more sleep, and feel more productive, focused and rejuvenated, let?s chat about how I can help you through coaching. Click on the button below to schedule a time to talk.

 


 

I?m a Life Coach, specializing in helping professionals feel rejuvenated and back in control of their lives through better sleep routines. ~ Rebekah Anderson

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FEELING OUR FEELINGS

FEELING OUR FEELINGS

Feelings are such an interesting topic because on the one hand, we as a society spend most of ours days trying to avoid feeling our feelings. And on the other hand, everything we do is driven by how we feel and how we want to feel.

What are feelings actually? Feelings are emotions and they are actual vibrations in our bodies. They are usually described in one word, such as happy, sad, excited, frustrated.

Something so amazing about feelings, that I learned only within the last year, is that all feelings are caused by our own thoughts. They are not caused by our circumstances, life situations, spouse, boss or any other person or thing outside of ourselves. Crazy right?

Think about something that makes you happy, maybe a giggling baby, a puppy rolling around, the perfect beach sunset. Now, think about something that is upsetting, like possibly the people in your life who?ve died, getting denied a raise, getting into a car accident.

Now go back to the happy feeling thoughts! ?

Can you see how just thinking about different things can give you the feeling? It is not actually the thing itself that does it. Even with my examples, maybe when you thought about those particular instances they didn?t elicit the feeling of happy or upsetting. That is because it is the way we think about it that provides the feeling.

For the baby or the puppy, maybe if I don?t really like babies or puppies, my thoughts would be: “I don?t really like babies,? or ?I don?t really care about this puppy.? Therefore, thinking these thoughts would not create a happy feeling. Those thoughts could create feelings of discomfort or apathy.

What does a feeling really feel like anyway? One technique to figure this out is to ask yourself a bunch of questions about how you?re feeling now. Take a seat and a deep breath. Focus on your body and what feeling you are experiencing in this moment. Then, ask yourself and answer these questions:

– What am I feeling now?
– Where is this feeling in my body?
– What color is this feeling?
– Is this feeling hard or soft?
– Is this feeling fast or slow?
– How does this feeling make me want to react?
– Why am I feeling this?
– What is the thought or belief that is causing me to have this feeling?

By asking these questions and answering them, we are becoming more in tune with our feelings and our thoughts causing them. Why does this matter? Because we have the power to choose our thoughts and subsequently how we feel.

Many of us go through each day on autopilot and many of our emotions range from anxious and frustrated to overwhelmed and discouraged. And, because we often think that we don?t want to feel these feelings, we try to avoid them by zoning out with eating, drinking, TV, social media, etc. However, tuning out doesn?t make them go away. The feelings persist.

Once we do get fed up with feeling this way, we will often try to change our circumstances to change the feeling. If only I could get a new job, new house, new spouse, for my kids to behave better, then I will finally feel better and be happy, or at least just not this way that I?m feeling now.

The bummer with all this is that the circumstances will not change the feeling, only our thoughts change the feeling. Sometimes we do change the circumstance and feel better for a while, but that is because we changed our thoughts too.

Another interesting feature of feelings is that our feelings drive all of our actions. Meaning, anything we do or don?t do in life is driven by how we feel.

I like to use part of my morning meditation and journaling time to decide how I want to feel that day. Often during the workdays, I?m choosing feelings like, motivated, driven, accomplished and abundant. On weekends, I?m choosing fulfilled, relaxed, peaceful and grateful. I like to mix it up. And it totally works!

How often do you notice your feelings? Do you make a deliberate choice to feel a certain way each day? How would your life be different if you chose your feelings rather than let them happen by default?

I can help you dig deeper with experiencing your feelings, and choosing how to feel each day.

 


 

I?m a Life Coach, specializing in helping professionals feel rejuvenated and back in control of their lives through better sleep routines. ~ Rebekah Anderson

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MORNING ROUTINE PART 2

MORNING ROUTINE PART 2

As I shared in my last post, the first part of my morning routine Monday thru Thursday includes gym workout, shower, family walk with husband and dogs, then breakfast.

It feels good to me to have established this routine that I created deliberately. The pieces set me up for a great day and great week.

During breakfast, this is my first time opening my iPad and iPhone and I use this time to read articles and blogs sent to my personal email. I go through seasons where certain topics stand out to me. Currently, I?m interested in reading material about content creation, blogging, online presence, etc. Coaching topics are also continually interesting to me.
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MORNING ROUTINES PART 1

MORNING ROUTINES PART 1

So, I love my morning routine. It is constantly evolving. This is one of the main reasons I love going to bed early. Going to bed early ensures a full night of sleep and a lovely long morning.

Getting up at 4:20 AM allows just enough time to get dressed, drink my espresso mixed with protein powder, brush my teeth, let my dogs out and get to the gym before the class starts at 5 AM.

The invigorating group workout is a combination of strength and HIIT movements. The workouts are predetermined and always different. Therefore, I don?t have to think about it or decide what I?m going to to that day. The decision has been made for me. I am able to immerse myself in the workout and the loud music and just be there. My mind is focused on the movement, and I don?t think about anything except what I?m doing in that moment. I feel very present.
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